Research-Backed Compatibility Assessment
Know where
you standbefore you commit
56 questions. 7 dimensions of compatibility. One report that shows exactly where you align — and where you'll need to put in the work.
Free to take. Pay only when you're ready for your report.
Most couples don't discover their biggest differences until it's too late
You've talked about the future. You feel aligned. But research shows that couples consistently overestimate how much they agree on finances, family planning, and conflict resolution. The assumptions you don't examine become the arguments you don't see coming.
Before We Do helps you replace assumptions with clarity — while you still have time to talk it through.
The Process
How It Works
Three steps. Less than 30 minutes per partner.
Both Partners Take the Assessment
Each of you independently answers 56 research-backed questions. Honest answers lead to the most useful insights.
We Analyze Your Compatibility
Our scoring engine compares your responses across 7 dimensions, identifying where you align and where you diverge.
Unlock Your Full Report
Receive a detailed compatibility breakdown with scores, personalized insights, and conversation starters for growth areas.
What We Measure
7 Dimensions of Compatibility
Every dimension that relationship science says matters most for long-term success.
Communication
How you express needs, listen, and navigate vulnerability with each other
Conflict
Your patterns during disagreement — and how you repair after
Finances
Spending habits, saving priorities, and long-term financial alignment
Intimacy
Physical and emotional connection needs and love language compatibility
Family & Lifestyle
Views on children, extended family boundaries, and daily life vision
Core Values
Fundamental worldviews, faith, politics, and life priorities
Growth
Openness to change, resilience under pressure, and willingness to evolve
What Couples Are Saying
“We thought we were on the same page about everything. Turns out we had completely different assumptions about finances and family. This report gave us the conversations we needed before the wedding.”
Sarah & James
Together 3 years, engaged
“Better than couples counseling as a starting point. The report didn’t just tell us our scores — it explained why those differences matter and what to do about them.”
Maria & David
Together 5 years, married
“I was nervous about what we’d find. But seeing where we’re strong gave us just as much value as seeing where we need work. We reference our report regularly.”
Priya & Alex
Together 2 years
The Science
Built on Relationship Science
Our assessment draws from decades of peer-reviewed research. The framework integrates insights from the Gottman Method (predicting relationship outcomes with over 90% accuracy), attachment theory (understanding how early bonding patterns shape adult relationships), and the SYMBIS framework (the most widely-used premarital assessment in the world).
Compatibility isn't about being the same — it's about understanding where you differ and having the tools to navigate those differences.
56
Questions
7
Dimensions
40+
Years of Research
Pricing
Simple & Transparent
Take the assessment for free. Pay only when you're ready to see your full report.
Complete Compatibility Report
One payment. Lifetime access. Both partners included.
Less than 30 minutes of couples counseling
No credit card required to begin.
Common Questions
Yes. Compatibility requires two perspectives. Each partner independently completes the same 56-question assessment, and your report is generated by comparing both sets of responses.
Most people finish in 15–20 minutes. You can save your progress and return anytime — no need to complete it in one sitting.
The assessment itself is free. You only pay $29 (one-time) after both partners have completed the questionnaire and you want to unlock your full compatibility report.
You’ll receive compatibility scores across all 7 dimensions, a detailed analysis of where you align and diverge, personalized insights based on your specific response patterns, and guided discussion questions for areas that need attention.
No — and it’s not meant to be. Think of it as a research-backed starting point. Many couples use their report as a foundation for deeper conversations, whether on their own or with a therapist.
No. Your individual responses are private. The report only shows your combined compatibility analysis — never the specific answers either partner gave.
The most important conversation starts with understanding
You don't need to be perfect together. You need to know where you stand — so you can grow from there.
Free to start. Takes about 15 minutes per partner.