Research-Backed Compatibility Assessment
Know where
you standbefore you commit
162 questions across 7 dimensions of compatibility. One report that shows exactly where you align — and where you need to put in the work.
Free to take. Pay only when you're ready for your report.
Most couples don't discover their biggest differences until it's too late
You've talked about the future. You feel aligned. But research shows that couples consistently overestimate how much they agree on finances, family planning, and conflict resolution. The assumptions you don't examine become the arguments you don't see coming.
Before We Do helps you replace assumptions with clarity — while you still have time to talk it through.
The Process
How It Works
Three steps. About 30 minutes per partner.
Both Partners Take the Assessment
Each of you independently answers 162 research-backed questions across 8 sections. Takes about 30 minutes. Save progress and return anytime.
We Analyze Your Compatibility
Our scoring engine compares your responses across 7 dimensions, identifying where you align and where you diverge.
Unlock Your Full Report
Receive a detailed compatibility breakdown with scores, personalized insights, and conversation starters for growth areas.
Your Report
See What You'll Unlock
18 pages of personalized insights, compatibility scores, and guided conversations.
18 pages· 7 dimensions scored · Personalized to your answers
Your Mindset Pairing
Jack
Rational
Sarah
Romantic
“The Head & The Heart”
Jack's practical approach to love can feel unromantic to Sarah, while Sarah's emotional intensity can feel impractical to Jack. The magic happens when Jack learns to lead with feeling sometimes, and Sarah appreciates that showing up consistently is its own love language.
Spouse Type
The Achiever
Incredibly determined · Naturally decisive · Constantly driven
Under stress
Can become impatient, finding stillness physically uncomfortable
Spouse Type
The Encourager
Optimistic & verbal · Naturally uplifting · Deeply warm
Under stress
Can become conflict-avoidant, choosing peace over honesty
Love Narrative
Jack views love as a partnership built on mutual respect and shared ambition. Love isn't just a feeling, it's a commitment to building something meaningful together...
What We Measure
7 Dimensions of Compatibility
Every dimension that relationship science says matters most for long-term success.
Communication
How you express needs, listen, and navigate vulnerability with each other
Conflict
Your patterns during disagreement — and how you repair after
Finances
Spending habits, saving priorities, and long-term financial alignment
Intimacy
Physical and emotional connection needs and love language compatibility
Family & Lifestyle
Views on children, extended family boundaries, and daily life vision
Core Values
Fundamental worldviews, faith, politics, and life priorities
Growth
Openness to change, resilience under pressure, and willingness to evolve
The Science
Built on Relationship Science
Our assessment draws from decades of peer-reviewed research. The framework integrates insights from the Gottman Method (predicting relationship outcomes with over 90% accuracy), attachment theory (understanding how early bonding patterns shape adult relationships), and the SYMBIS framework (the most widely-used premarital assessment in the world).
Compatibility isn't about being the same — it's about understanding where you differ and having the tools to navigate those differences.
162
Questions
7
Dimensions
40+
Years of Research
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
Gottman, J. M. & Silver, N. · Crown Publishers
What Predicts Divorce?
Gottman, J. M. · Lawrence Erlbaum Associates
Romantic love conceptualized as an attachment process
Hazan, C. & Shaver, P. · Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 52(3)
Attachment and Loss, Vol. 1: Attachment
Bowlby, J. · Basic Books
Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts
Parrott, L. & Parrott, L. · Zondervan
Emotions of Normal People
Marston, W. M. · Kegan Paul, Trench, Trubner & Co.
PREPARE/ENRICH Program
Olson, D. H. et al. · Life Innovations, Inc.
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
Gottman, J. M. & Silver, N. · Crown Publishers
What Predicts Divorce?
Gottman, J. M. · Lawrence Erlbaum Associates
Romantic love conceptualized as an attachment process
Hazan, C. & Shaver, P. · Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 52(3)
Attachment and Loss, Vol. 1: Attachment
Bowlby, J. · Basic Books
Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts
Parrott, L. & Parrott, L. · Zondervan
Emotions of Normal People
Marston, W. M. · Kegan Paul, Trench, Trubner & Co.
PREPARE/ENRICH Program
Olson, D. H. et al. · Life Innovations, Inc.
Pricing
Simple & Transparent
Take the assessment for free. Pay only when you're ready to see your full report.
Complete Compatibility Report
One payment. Lifetime access. Both partners included.
Less than 30 minutes of couples counseling
No credit card required to begin.
Common Questions
Yes. Compatibility requires two perspectives. Each partner independently completes the same 162-question assessment, and your report is generated by comparing both sets of responses.
Most people finish in about 30 minutes. You can save your progress and return anytime — no need to complete it in one sitting.
The assessment itself is free. You only pay $29 (one-time) after both partners have completed the questionnaire and you want to unlock your full compatibility report.
You’ll receive compatibility scores across all 7 dimensions, a detailed analysis of where you align and diverge, personalized insights based on your specific response patterns, and guided discussion questions for areas that need attention.
No — and it’s not meant to be. Think of it as a research-backed starting point. Many couples use their report as a foundation for deeper conversations, whether on their own or with a therapist.
No. Your individual responses are private. The report only shows your combined compatibility analysis — never the specific answers either partner gave.
The most important conversation starts with understanding
You don't need to be perfect together. You need to know where you stand — so you can grow from there.
Free to start. Takes about 30 minutes per partner.